May 13

I have dating this man for about a year and a half and he is so insecure it is driving me mad. I truly love him, but he thinks I’m always looking for someone else. If I wear make up or put on a dress or if someone walks past me and says “hi”, I’m ofcourse cheating on him. He has stated that he was hurt in the past but won’t go into details and that he’s scared to really trust another women. He says he wants to get married but needs more time, that’s find with me. I think we need a couple of more years under the belt before we get married anyhow, but how can I get him to get over his insecurities? He wants me to walk around looking like plain Jane, and that’s not going to happen. I’m comfortable in the way I look and changing it is not an option so I need suggestions on how to get him to have faith and trust me.

Advice:

That kind of nonsense would grow old with me VERY, VERY fast.

It’s also something that you need to be quite concerned about, especially in someone you’ve been dating for an entire year and a half. It’s often one short step from being worried that your partner is cheating on you to accusing them of doing so to punishing them physically for these perceived bouts of cheating.

Look; ask yourself this; you’ve been dating this man for an entire year and a half. Why in the world would you waste your time and energy on a man who, even after all this time tells you he’s “scared to trust another woman”? If he hasn’t changed his mind in regards to trusting women in the 18 months you two have been together, what in the world makes you think he’s going to do this in the future?

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it won;t be easy,, because once hurt always hurt,,, just try to keep insuring him,, is all i can say,,, have been on both ends,, an its not fun,,, keep ur chin up,,, an let him no he;s the only one for u