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I am in a really bad relationship, we never talk anymore and all he does is drink and critize everything me and the kids do. I’ve know for a long time that I need to do something different, I just don’t have the money to up and leave, nor do I hve any family left. I have applied for housing assistance but that can take a while. The holidays are soon and I don’t know how to keep hanging in there until I get the resources together or needed to move. I have no friends because we just moved here. I don’t know what to do, I am so frustrated, he use to be a good man but he know devotes most of his energy and money to the bar, any suggestions, feel like just getting in the car and drive away………

in the car and drive away……… >> well, now that certainly wouldnt be the answer…

i have learned the hard way that running away from problems only serves to ferther aggrevate them… I know it seems hopeless but try talking to him…on the other hand the last thing you deserve is a relationship in which you are given no respect…..

Advice2:Anyways, what I would advise you to do is to get a job if you don’t alreally have one; save mpney and get out of the house and out of that realtionship if your not happy. No woman deserves to live in these conditions, and you need to free yourself form the situation. think about you kids, and yoursef, because even if you had family and friends around, faxce it, you are the only one that get yorself out of this situation.

Advice3:Hi. I think I’m in the same boat as you are. I’ve been married for over 15 years and our marriage although not arranged seem like it was because I had to marry an Asian guy even though I didn’t want to. You know to save face. And I did it just to please my family you know be a good girl. Anyway, lately my husband and I don’t talk anymore and I have been very unhappy. I feel my husband doesn’t understand me or is oblivious to it. He says he’s happy and doesn’t see why I’m unhappy. I’m working on finding a job and working on getting my credit cards paid off. I really want to leave. Oh, I have two children also so it’s been hard over the years. Today I even felt like walking out because I can’t take it anymore and just don’t like being around him. There are several other factors too: he gets upset with us if we don’t want to see a movie, he plays video games all the time, and sleeps alot during the day. And he’s kind of cheap when it comes to taking care of us…cheap with food but will spend money on other things that aren’t that important.

Oh, ‘n regarding my other posts about the other guy, we’re just friends and we’re both 40. We haven’t done anything but talk. He’s currently separated from his wife. He says he doesn’t mind me calling him but I don’t want to be a pest. He has also asked me to get away for a weekend with him so I can get away from this stuff. Like I want to call him now…but I’m holding off. He says he knows what I’m going through because he was just there and wish he had a friend to talk to during that time. You know as I’m writing this I feel so bummed…I don’t want to hurt my kids, 14 and 9.

What do I do? Anyway, I’m working on finding a job right away.